I changed my son’s fat, his unhealthy girlfriend

Dear Abe: Our 23-year-old son, Ed, was clean, to work and stay in good health. He saw his diet-until he joined the gym and went every week.

Ed was returning to a girl, “Emily”, which is the exact opposite. One hundred pounds may be overweight. It is also dirty (when you come here, there were days that you would not bathe).

Twice I found Emily’s underwear on the floor. Last week, she left a pair of her internal pants on the bathroom. Ed showed and told him that this is second The time she found her underwear (the first time I did not say anything). I said, “You have to talk to Emily and tell her not to leave her underwear around her.”

I see a change in Ed. My son did not cut off his hair in two and a half years, and he no longer seemed to work. This is not from us as a family. My husband and I are fit for our ages (the 1960s) and for all the criteria clean and organized. Should I say anything to Ed? I feel that Emily changes what he is. He is not the same in the East

Dear, not the same thing: Please stop blaming Emily for the changes I have noticed. Your son is doing these changes himself. Although his girlfriend seems ignorant about basic hygiene, I am not sure that you are the father who should discuss this with ED. It may be less defensive if the “hadith” comes from his father, a man to a man.

I am unclear whether your son still lives at home with you or if he and his girlfriend have their own place. If the first thing is, you will definitely be part of your rights to indicate that you have an obstacle to dirty clothes and please use it. If they live separately, think about offering them one place.

Dear Abe: My husband died three years ago. We were married for 56 years. Four months before our big wedding ceremony, California, we were secretly married in Las Vegas. No one was discovered. Coming from a family of Spanish origin, my father was not acceptable, so he did not say anything. In the past, it was stupid to do. I was only 19 years old, and he was 22 years old. When I retired from the application of the law, we moved to Washington, where I still live.

I have two adult daughters, and I wonder if this is something they need to know. I still have a Las Vegas marriage certificate, along with the California marriage certificate – the one that we have always celebrated as the date of the anniversary. Will it be wrong to tear the Las Vegas testimony and take this secret to my grave? – I wonder in Washington

Dear I wonder: I do not think that escaping between a young couple in love deeply is anything ashamed of. I do not think that your love story is “stupid” at all. As long as they do not harm anyone, people have the right to obtain a few “secrets”. If you want to move this to you, this is your privilege, and you will not get any debate from me. However, I would like to point out that since your first marriage license is a legal document, instead of destroying it, keeping it under the lock and key until you leave this ground toil.

Dear Abe, written by Abigil van Burin, also known as Jin Phillips, and was founded by her mother Pauline Phillips. Call dear Abe in http://www.dearabby.com Or Po Box 69440, Los Angeles, California 90069.