I moved throughout the country to be closer to my family – but they still ignore me

Dear Abe: I made a terrible mistake in transporting 2000 miles throughout the country to be closer to my grandchildren. In the past, I have always noticed that my son and daughter dealt with other grandparents better. They put the red carpet to my daughter. They arrange with them, take pictures and spread the moments of special grandchildren on Facebook. Nobody takes pictures of me while doing the same things with grandchildren. It is also difficult to do things with them because my smelter always accelerates them to do something else. It seems as if she wanted to be her only parents who have a special relationship with grandchildren.

I feel sick from my stomach every day. In the past, I could not take off the work to travel for visits like other grandparents, so I missed a lot. I thought by moving here, I will stop feeling out with my grandchildren. I am celibate and still work, and although this was a great disruption in my life, it was a sacrifice that I thought deserved to make the joy to be serious more. But many changed. What do you think? Abroad in Tennessee

Dear strangers: This amazing feeling may be anxious. This is something you should discuss with your son. Before issuing any rulings, it was useful to know if you had discussed your “potential” move to Tennessee with him and his wife to find out what they felt about it. Or did you simply declare that you are coming? If they welcomed the idea, but they did not include you, shame on them.

Family counseling may help calm things if they are ready. If you are not, you are not able to formulate the type of relationship you want with your grandchildren, think about another step – where you want and isolate it.

Dear Abe: Sometimes, when I sympathize with someone about a difficult situation they face by saying, “I’m sorry”, this person will respond by saying, “It is not your mistake”, or “no need to apologize.” This happened again today. The definition of “sorry” is “an expression of sadness or regret.” It is not necessarily an apology.

When people respond in this way, I find it embarrassing, embarrassing and even reduced. Please ask readers to take the expression as intended. It is usually clear whether the person who talks apologizes or expresses your sympathy. – Apology in the West

Dear apology: People, in general, have personal pet animals. Although this response is for you, I doubt that many people will stop doing this because of one message in the column. The next time this is happening, tell the person who did not apologize, simply express sympathy. If I say this with a smile, it is unlikely that a person will be insulted.

Dear Abe, written by Abigil van Burin, also known as Jin Phillips, and was founded by her mother Pauline Phillips. Call dear Abe in www.dearabby.com Or Po Box 69440, Los Angeles, California 90069.