I plan a sudden birthday for my husband – but will his children come?

Dear Abe: My husband has four children who grew – one of his first marriage; Three with his late wife. Talk about the drama! Who talks to whom? Who cannot stand from? Who is annoyed when someone comes to visit us? BFFS can be today and tomorrow stabbed each other in the back.

Recently, my husband was saying he wanted to see his four children and all his grandchildren together. In fact, his fine words were, “I think the only time I will see all my children together in one room when they come to my funeral.”

My husband has a birthday of teacher approaching. I was thinking about having a sudden birthday party in a restaurant and inviting all children and grandchildren. I thought about sending text messages or sending an email to all of them with a note, allowing them to know the desires of their father and asked them to be civilians to each other for a few hours for their father. I also want them to know that if they could not do it, they should not accept the invitation.

What are your thoughts, Abi? Or should I drop the idea of parties and two of us go out for dinner? – The father who wants peace

Dear Father: I think the idea of your husband’s family gathered to celebrate his birthday, the teacher is great. Please do not cancel the idea because his cultivated children do not always behave like adults. Invite everyone, and remind them that this happy occasion should not be considered an opportunity to broadcast any grievances, then cross your fingers that will rise to this occasion.

Dear Abe: I was in a relationship with my fiancé now for eight years. I am older than five years than it is. I know he loves me, but I am not sure if he is still in love with me. Of course he says he, but sometimes I think he is comfortable with me. The love he is used to does not appear.

I often said that I feel only here to accommodate it with cooking, cleaning and external work. We no longer have good conversations anymore. They are always everything about him. When I tell him how to feel, things change for only a short period, then they return directly. There are good times, but they are few and spaced. I need your advice. Doubt in Michigan

Dear doubt: Eight years later, it was known that the flame of emotion dies and takes over the routine. What two might need is some time – so that you can miss each other a little and appreciate each other. This little separation may give you something new to talk about.

Think about doing some activities that you can do together, such as going on a daily trip or doing a new sport. Also, you may feel less than a foreground if those household chores that you described, such as cooking, cleaning, work, or sharing them. From what you wrote, you were doing all heavy lifting.

Dear Abe, written by Abigil van Burin, also known as Jin Phillips, and was founded by her mother Pauline Phillips. Call dear Abe in www.dearabby.com Or Po Box 69440, Los Angeles, California 90069.