My colleagues at work hate me and I do not know why

Dear Abe: I was a nurse registered for 11 years. I am experienced in hospital nursing and nursing at the clinic, and I have always been considered good in my field. I haven’t had a problem in forming positive relationships with my co -workers.

I recently moved to a new unit. Although the workflow is slightly different from what I used to, I discovered quickly and I feel confident in my ability to do this task well. My problem is that any of the nurses seems to love me or respect me. Each opportunity is seized to indicate slight differences in the way I do things instead of how they do them. What is really related is their preference against the actual protocol. I try every day to participate in the conversation, get to know it better and form a supportive and respectful working relationship with each of them. I met my efforts with a little treatment.

I love the type of work I do. Watch is great, and I have time to provide wonderful nursing care and work as a defender of my patients. However, I have always said that I can get the worst job in the world, but if I have great relationships with my co -workers, this will make the task more enjoyable. I now feel that I have the best job with the worst co -workers. I went home and cried several times from being frustrated because I am not acceptable. Should I resign and move forward? If not, how can I improve this?

–– disappointed in Arkansas

Dear disappointment: Change can be difficult for all concerned, including your co -workers. Because you are new, give it more time before you decide if you are going to. If things do not improve, discuss your feelings of isolation with your supervisor to ensure that the lukewarm reception you received does not negatively affect your performance. Then search for another job.

Dear Abe: I am one of three adult brothers. My brother and sister have children; Me, no. I love my brother and my brother, and I have always provided Christmas and Christmas gifts, as well as sending their money to graduation or other special occasions.

My brothers say they no longer want to exchange gifts between us, and just focus on children. He spent several hundreds of dollars a year on gifts for them and received any gifts in return. I know that when a gift is presented, there should be no expectation to get one in return, but I think a symbolic gift for my birthday and will not be unreasonable. I will be pleased to receive a $ 20 gift card to a restaurant. Am I unreasonable? – Uncle love in the Middle West

Dear uncle: maybe. From what you wrote, I don’t think you will get anything without “claim”. Instead of housing on what you do not receive, try to focus on attention and affection Do I give you, and you may feel less deprived.

Dear Abe, written by Abigil van Burin, also known as Jin Phillips, and was founded by her mother Pauline Phillips. Call dear Abe in http://www.dearabby.com Or Po Box 69440, Los Angeles, California 90069.